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Learned Helplessness
Learned helplessness quite simply occurs when
you have learned to believe that you are helpless in a particular situation.
The end result is that you believe that no matter what you do the result is
written in stone even though you may actually have the ability to change the
outcome.
It is theorized that
depression occurs when you perceive that you have no control over your life based in large part upon what has happened
in the past.
It is my belief that mistakes and failures by definition are adjectives which describe past events. Therefore those of us
who have chosen to grow and evolve into someone who is infinitely wiser than we once were, quite frankly, could care less
about what happened in the past.
Sometimes it is easier to believe that there is no point in trying yet again to obtain that dream. It saves much effort and
the risk of yet another
failure. Perhaps we have learned from yet another mistake. Perhaps we choose another path or go at our dream from a different
angle.
I have seen and known many people who have learned to accept their lot in life. Either they were taught this by people they
trusted or they learned through repeated failure that there was no point in trying.
Thomas Edison's teachers said he was "too stupid to
learn anything." He was fired from his first two jobs for being
"non-productive." As an inventor, Edison made 1,000 unsuccessful attempts at
inventing the light bulb. When a reporter asked, "How did it feel to fail 1,000
times?" Edison replied, "I didn’t fail 1,000 times. The light bulb was an
invention with 1,000 steps."
Can you imagine failing 1000 times and still be determined enough to try 1001 times. The definition of insanity is attempting
something over and over again and expecting a different result. Perhaps this is why many genius's often appear off their rocker.
Winston Churchill failed sixth grade. He was
subsequently defeated in every election for public office until he became Prime
Minister at the age of 62. He later wrote, "Never give in, never give in, never,
never, never, never - in nothing, great or small, large or petty - never give in
except to convictions of honor and good sense. Never, Never, Never, Never give
up."
Many of us have suffered many let downs in our life. Many times I have attempted something and failed. Often I have vowed to just
be content with whatever it is that I had. But slowly over time I forget that failure and start to believe
that there is more. That I deserve more. That I can attain my dreams. And that it is way too early in the game to roll over
and die.
Maybe, just maybe it is a little too early for you to do the same.
PUBLISHED 07/10/07
Depression
Relapse - What to Do
If
you have suffered from clinical or chronic depresssion it is probably too
much to ask that you will never ever again have a problem with depression.
And if you are familiar with depression you know exactly when it is coming
on. I feel the key is not to let it get its grip on you. If you let it get a
hold on you it will be that much tougher to alleviate the problem.
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PUBLISHED
07/03/07
My Six Month Old Is An Addict - And I Am Co-Dependant
At only six months old she has all the signs of an addict. Moody, puffy red eyes from crying, she can't sleep, fever, and constant drooling.
The thing that I am ashamed of is that I am an enabler. I am her
supplier. I get the stuff for her. Yeah that's right, I
am the "pusher man". Oh the humanity!
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article
PUBLISHED
6/18/07
Dear Ms. Paris Hilton,
I just wanted to add my two cents for what it is worth. Coincidentally I think it is worth about two cents....Canadian.
Don't worry, America will get over this. Rob Lowe had a thing. Hugh Grant had a thing. And I'm sure Pee Wee Herman
still has a few fans out there. click here for the
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